Take this short self-assessment to find out.

1 / 21

I can tell other people when something they are doing makes me uncomfortable.

2 / 21

I sometimes agree to things because I am afraid of disappointing someone.

3 / 21

I can say no when a request requires more time or energy than I can give.

4 / 21

I feel responsible for keeping other people happy.

5 / 21

I know what behavior I am willing and unwilling to accept from others.

6 / 21

I can express my needs even when another person may disagree with me.

7 / 21

I sometimes let people cross my limits because confronting them feels uncomfortable.

8 / 21

I can ask for personal space or time when I need it.

9 / 21

I can change my mind after agreeing to something if I realize it is not right for me.

10 / 21

I feel that I must give a long explanation when I say no.

11 / 21

I can care about another person’s needs without ignoring my own.

12 / 21

When someone becomes upset with me, I often give in just to end the conflict.

13 / 21

I can clearly communicate what I expect from people close to me.

14 / 21

I can accept that someone may be disappointed with a decision I make.

15 / 21

I sometimes say yes and later feel resentful because I really wanted to say no.

16 / 21

If someone repeatedly ignores a limit I have communicated, I take appropriate action.

17 / 21

I can listen to another person’s emotions without feeling responsible for fixing everything for them.

18 / 21

I avoid addressing problems because I worry about how the other person will react.

19 / 21

I recognize when someone is asking more from me than I can reasonably give.

20 / 21

I can maintain a decision even when another person pressures me to change it.

21 / 21

Almost done

Enter your details below to see your score.